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Stress is the elephant in the car during the house hunting process. It stays with you even after you get home from hours of walking through three to five houses in a single day. House hunting stress keeps you up at night, worrying that you will never find the perfect house.
How house hunting stress could ruin your most beloved relationships
Let house hunting stress run a muck and it could damage your closest relationships. Arguments between you and your partner or children could erupt, even migrating into other areas like social behaviors, work life balance issues and parental support.
Damage that house hunting stress causes is far reaching. Even so, you might not always know when you are experiencing the stress. Therefore, the first step in dealing with the stress is to recognize that you are developing or have already developed it. Among the house hunting stress signs are:
- Less sleep at night, including difficulty falling and staying asleep
- Headaches, particularly recurring headaches or worsening headaches if you have a habit of developing headaches
- Irritable bowels whether that manifest through constipation or diarrhea
- Unexplainable weight loss or weight gain
- Joint stiffness (stress could contribute to inflammation which can cause joint pain)
- Short patience
- Emotional eruptions
- Sadness that lingers, especially when you start telling yourself that you're sure to miss out on a great home deal
- Fears that you won't be able to afford mortgage payments on the house that you really want, the house that's located in the area that you most want to reside in
Reduce or eliminate house hunting fears as soon as you spot them. Achieving this takes an honest self-review. You could reduce or eliminate house hunting fears by:
- Admitting that you are afraid
- Writing down what it is about buying a house that scares you (i.e. mortgage payments, job uncertainty, leaving your current home)
- Letting go of the idea that you have to find the perfect house
- Opening to the practicality of buying a house that you can afford to make monthly payments on and upgrade over one to three years
- Scheduling open house visits across several days and weeks, so you're not cramming house visits into a tight time window
- Speaking with your realtor about your concerns
- Performing data analysis on houses that you want to buy
- Researching communities that you're interested in buying houses in
- Getting advice from family, friends and colleagues who have bought houses
Wiping out house hunting stress
Stress, in any form, is generally not good. Yet, stress is so common that it almost seems organic. By not telling yourself that you have to find the perfect house, you could actually shorten the time that it takes you to find a house that meets your family's needs.
Openness to compromise on certain items like kitchen cabinet color, shag or traditional carpeting and a finished or unfinished basement could reduce stress around the need to completely agree on every house amenity. This type of compromise can also reduce or soften disagreements between couples or parents and children.
In the event that you are unable to work through house hunting stress, the next step might be to postpone house shopping for a few days or weeks. Being open to the idea of expanding or upgrading your current home is another alternative. Whichever path you take, remember that houses will always be on the market. Stress and worry won't find you the right house. Neither will sleeplessness or arguing with loved ones, the very people who you may be living at the new house with.